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Love n Marraige

2006-02-21T17:45:00.000+05:45

Writing the blog after a long time. I was thinking about this thing for a long time. This blog is all about love and marriage. Valentine's Day has just gone. I and my friend were returning from aerobics by 7'o clock in the morning. We saw a guy standing with bouquet and a gift in his hand with lots of happiness filled in his eyes. We both commented the guy like "for the first time in his life he might have got up early and might have got ready so quickly". We have watched lots of things like this during our college days.

During my school days according to me love is something sin like thing. The persons who in love without their parent's knowledge are bad people. Nowadays I have matured a lot in my thoughts regarding this thing. I have realized now what true love is. During school days most of us doesn't know what love is. What we know is all about what we see in movies. Hero and heroine will fall in love, a villain will be their and they will join together overcoming the villains tactics in the climax. I have seen in my school days college guys giving letters to school girls. Most of the girls will get frightened; some will just start speaking to the guy. Since I studied in a girl’s school my classmates used to tell lots of stories about these things. These things haven't bothered me much during my school days since myself and my friends had lot of other things to discuss.

When I entered my college, my attitude towards love changed a lot. I have seen lots of love pairs in my college. I used to wonder how many of them will marry. They say their love is true. They won't bother about anything, their future, their career, their parents etc. They will just talk talk such that no can hear. They used to think that is love. Love at first sight is applicable only to movies not to real life. Love is something that comes out after knowing each other well. We will start liking that person, moved by their character, will make think that life with him/her will be happy and peaceful. Most of the people say easily that their love got break since their parent's didn't accept, this is an escaping excuse according to me. I have seen most of the girls saying bye easily to the guy once their parents didn't agree. I wonder why they are not thinking about this thing before falling into love. I used to wonder how girls are like that, without hesitation they are spoiling their life and the guy's life and were able to marry other guy. If their love is true they should just be strong in their love, should talk to their parents. It will take time for them to accept, we should make them understand how our life will become miserable loving one person and marrying other. Our parents will think of society and this is the major hindrance to them. This fear about society will make them to protest against love. In our society love marriage is not common and all love marriage hasn't been successful. Even if it has succeeded no one will think about that. People's tendency is to look into negative example at first. They used to think only arranged marriages go on well which is also not true. We should make our parents understand that once we live happily society will not speak about this; they will have some other matter by now to speak. Our happiness is what they expect at last.

Betraying our parents and marrying is the other thing which is not acceptable. Our parents have looked into each and every need in our life from our childhood and have fulfilled them. Just after settling in life leaving them and going away is not a good thing. Betraying is the most hurting thing which will just create a hatred ness. "The world is just a small round", we will paid for what we have done within our life time. Be happy and make people around us also happy.

goal......

2005-03-22T16:49:00.002+05:45

Many times we used to think,we have to achieve something.But we won't be able to find out what to achieve.This might be many people's situation also.One day,we will think "I have to be like Mother Terasa",the other day "I have to become like Abdul Kalam",the other day "I have to a good teacher",it goes on like this most of the times.

we used to think its easy to tell in film as in "lakshya","Bent it like Beckham" etc,but in real life it seems to be difficult.Actually its not the fact.surely everyone will have a dream of their own.Goal in our life is what we dream of, to become oneday.It might be becoming a good politician,a successful business man/woman,a social worker,a good chef,a good actor/actress etc.Acheiving this might take time and it might have some hindrance,but we should not think of that.Our dream should not be a dream through out our life.Setting a goal and achieving it really makes our life meaningful.

We generally think our society or family background prevents us from doing something,which we like to do for example growing an orphan,doing higher studies or choosing a career as we wish.When ever we do something we used to think our family first and if it seems ok with our family,we used to think about our society.Overcoming this is easy,they are not our hindrance actually,only our negative thoughts are our hindrance.First we should not think of the society when we do something.The won't stand behind us always,most of them are there just to criticise what we do.We should make our family members accept what we do,by explaining them.It might take time,a year or more.They won't hurt us,hurting us is not their motive,the thing is that it takes time for them to accept what we say,since they have spent their past years with principles of their own.So if we say something which is different from what's happening in our society or something which is against what they think,they cannot accept at first time and rejects it.

If we really believe in our dreams/goals,we will unknowingly work for it.We have to step down the things we have follow to achieve it.Overcoming each step might take time or we might delay in doing things.Only a perfect plan will make us achieve our goal.The steps might be learning,contacting persons,conveniencing our family so on.What ever we do we should put our whole effort and should dedicate ourselves in it whole heartedly.We should not fed up if it takes time,or if we come across with frequent failure.We should not think like it will be nice if we have someone to help,someone to drive.People will help us only if we approach them.Helping us is not as important as their work,so most of them won't remember what we asked for.Noone will say ,"I won't help".Only we should remind them incase we need their help badly.Reading books also really help us in this regard,read self-motivation books,biography/autobigraphy of achieved persons.We should think like one day or the other "I will achive it".

Hi friends,if you have goal in your life, achieve it.Don't leave it in half-way.If not having a goal just do things like donating a book to library on our birthday,helping poor people giving them clothes once or twice in a year,donating blood.We should do something in our life which will make us feel happy in our last days.

anectode....

2005-01-21T16:45:00.000+05:45

Adjust To Life :

A man and his girlfriend were married. It was a large celebration. All of their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to partake of the festivities and celebrations. A wonderful time was had by all.

The bride was gorgeous in her white wedding gown and the groom was very dashing in his black tuxedo. Everyone could tell that the love they had for
each other was true.

A few months later, the wife comes to the husband with a proposal: "I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage." she offered.

"Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together."
The husband agreed. So each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other.They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with. The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists.

"I'll start," offered the wife. She took out her list. It
had many items on it. Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husbands eyes.
"What's wrong?" she asked. "Nothing" the husband replied, "keep reading your list."
The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband. She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over top of it.

"Now, you read your list and then we'll talk about the things on both of our lists." She said happily.
Quietly the husband stated, "I don't have anything on my list. I think that
you are perfect the way that you are. I don't want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn't want to try and change anything about you."
The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.

IN LIFE, there are enough times when we are disappointed, depressed and annoyed. We don't really have to go looking for them.
We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise.
Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or annoying
when we can look around us, and see the wondrous things before us?
I believe that WE ARE HAPPIEST WHEN we see and praise the good and try our best to forget the bad. Nobody's perfect but we can find perfect ness in them to change the way we see them.